I have no tips at all... Hehe..
My husband has been free from smoking for approximately 4 months now, and counting. To be fair, before that he was not really a heavy smoker pun, just a sosial smoker orang kata. He didn't smoke at home, or everytime we went out together, not in front of me, apatah lagi when our baby is around. He has been trying for years, as far as I'm concern, even before we get married.
Dulu I pernah juga tanya my superiors (both of them used to be a heavy smoker at their young age and now have quit smoking for good) apa petuanya, they said it happened just like that, and it wasn't easy of course, salah seorang daripada mereka mengalami sakit-sakit badan yang berpanjangan selepas berhenti, I don't understand why tapi mungkin kerana perubahan yang dialami dalam badan, but everything will be fine after several years. YEARS, mind you. So I take it, determination is the most important. I also once have a conversation with my boss' wife too, asking what she has done to make him stop smoking, she said, "Nothing, it's his own will. Will power.."
I've never really force him to quit actually, as I always know that it's not easy to quit even if it is doable. Ala I memang bukan jenis memaksa pun, lecehlah nak desak-desak ni nanti depan kita je dia tak buat sebab malas dengar kita berleter. Benda tak ikhlas, susah nak bertahan. So lek-lek je, he's lucky for marrying the coolest girl ever hehehe self-proclaimed :p Cuma I guna psychology cakap dengan dia, that a father who smokes, akan produce anak yang kurang bijak. Tak tahu teori ini dapat dari mana, mungkin daripada pemerhatian dan pengalaman. Sekali sekala kalau cerita pasal anak, macam mana anak bila remaja dan sebagainya, I casually said, "I wonder how to educate Ammar Yusuf about smoking, when you.. you know.." Ehehe. He always said about quitting, and he already tried several ways. Bermula dengan mengurangkan jumlah yang dihisap sedikit demi sedikit, he once tried nicotine gum, and almost try the patch one. Memang sejak kahwin dia dah makin kurang merokok, but never really stop. He once said, "Abang akan totally quit, before Ammar Yusuf faham apa-apa.." Owkayy..
Bila finally dia dah benar-benar berhenti, dia tak bagitahu I pun awal-awalnya sebab dia cakap takut dia terbuat separuh jalan. After like 3 weeks quitting, baru dia bagitahu.
"Abang dah 3 minggu tak smoking tau.."
"Really? Not even a single puff?"
"Really? Not even a single puff?"
"Yes, not even a single puff.. Tak perasan ke bila kiss Abang dah tak ada bau rokok?" HAHA annoying.
"Ya Allah I'm so proud of you Sayang..."
"But please don't get excited too early, I'm afraid if it doesn't last.."
"Nevermind, just keep doing what you do best.. At least you've started somewhere. Oh my I'm so proud of you!"
Patutlah awal-awal dulu I perasan dia kerap sangat beli Clorets/Eclipse, gula-gula berpudina. After having his meal je mesti dia akan makan gula-gula pula. Dululah, sekarang dah tak nampak dah.
Now it has been 4 months, he's still standing strong with his determination Alhamdulillah. Sometimes I do ask, "Do you still have the desire of smoking? Ada tak rasa gian ke sekali sekala?
He said, "Entah, macam tak ada je. Kat office Abang lepak dengan those yang smoking kat pantry pun, tak ada rasa apa pun.."
I'm so proud of him. I prayed hard that it will last forever, so that he can be a good example for our kids. Because I do think it is quite difficult to educate our kids to not smoke, when the father himself is a smoker. Do you agree?
So if you ask me, what have I done to make him stop? I actually do nothing unless to keep on supporting his intention. Bila dia kata nak stop, jangan perlekehkan dia eventhough dah banyak kali dia kata nak stop, only God knows how hard he has been trying. Siapa taknak jadi sihat? Dahlah rokok makin mahal sekarang, siapa taknak jimat duit kan? Sebenarnya yang paling penting, semuanya kena datang dari diri dia sendiri. Whatever it is, he needs to be very determine, he needs to have a very strong will.
Dan satu lagi, I believe having a child is such a big helper, Alhamdulillah. Penangan anak kan, kau ada anak nanti kau tahulah macam mana. Anything for his little knight. Nak-nak Ammar Yusuf tu anak Daddy, semua benda nak buat dengan Daddy, Daddy adalah idola dia, Daddy is someone Ammar Yusuf will always look up to. Of course Daddy seboleh-boleh nak jadi yang paling baik untuk dia, kan? ;)
Please stay strong Sayang, your kids and I are so proud of you :')