I got it that it's normal to enjoy our child's achievement, especially for new parents; the excitement is of course overwhelming. But there's a thick line between being excited/proud and trying too hard to out do everyone else.
"Anak akulah yang paling comel"
"Anak aku paling cepat belajar"
"Anak aku paling banyak baju cantik"
"Anak aku paling dan paling dan terpaling blablablabla.."
If there's not much thing to boast around anymore, the other parents are the next victim.
"Kalau nak bagi anak cepat pandai, belikan dia permainan blablabla. Tengok macam anak aku."
"Eh, dah 8 bulan pun belum boleh berjalan ke? Mesti kau tak ajar dia blablabla. Anak aku si Boy tu 8 bulan dah berlari tau."
"Masa mengandung dulu aku makan blablabla, sebab tu anak aku otak bagus. Masa pregnant dulu kau tak makan ke?"
Macam-macam lagilah. Kalau niat untuk berkongsi ilmu penjagaan tidak mengapa, tapi biasanya kita boleh nampak jika seseorang itu lebih kepada menghakimi, membanding-bandingkan dan cuba menimbulkan persaingan.
I love all babies. I was growing up surrounded with babies (little brothers/sister and then nephews/nieces after that) thus when I was married and having a baby myself, the necessity of comparing and competing between other parents has never come across my mind.
Sebab aku tahu, all babies are unique and develop at their own pace. Lain baby lain perkembangannya. Tak pernah rasa pun nak compare between babies especially knowing that I am a new mother myself I understand that I have to be very careful in giving opinion to other new mothers as we are in the same boat. We are still learning.
So, if a new parent comes to me and says something like, "Eh salahlah cara dukung tu, meh sini I tunjuk the right way," usually what I did instead of becoming defensive, I just smile and said, "Really? Maybe you're right" thus giving them a satisfaction and pleasure of feelings, "See? I'm the best mother of all'. You ARE the best mother of all. Whatever makes you happy. (But please don't cross the line, I have my own limits too).
For Ammar Yusuf, let's just enjoy every moment together and live it to the fullest. Setiap orang ada kelebihan masing-masing, ada rezeki masing-masing. Allah Maha Adil kan?
"Slowly Sayang, there's no rush. One step at a time, Mummy got your back."